In the previous post I discussed the issue of ‘The God Complex’ that innate feeling of ‘I am right’. This occurs in all of us to some degree but is detrimental to the development of ourselves and others. This is due to the fact that quite often we may be right but that doesn’t mean it is the only way, telling an individual consistently that there is only one right way of doing things severely limits their ability to see other possibilities. Of course there are those times when we think we are right but we are in fact completely wrong, which really doesn’t help anyone.
So if this trait is strong in us, how do we help passing it on to those that we lead? Well to achieve this you must first of all show unconditional respect for those that you are leading. That is that even if they can’t complete a task you still respect them and help them to discover a solution. By doing this you allow that individual to develop the capacity to find solutions to problems themselves and not rely on others. Disrespecting them in anyway, such as demeaning them because they currently don’t have the ability to address an issue or can’t do it as well as you; hinders their ability to see solutions and of course does nothing for their confidence in their own ability. It also has a neurological effect, when we feel judged we revert back to our more ancient parts of our brain (the Red Zone) instead of being in the much more creative and collaborative Blue Zone (Prefrontal Cortex). Unconditional respect builds self sufficiency in the team and they can work much more efficiently and effectively, it also allows an individual to build a capacity to act in the Blue Zone.
So all this talk of respect and self sufficiency is all well and good but what does it look like day to day within a business. Well one way to develop this in a team environment is to have coaches as leaders. By coaching an individual it produces solutions that don’t come from the leader but the team member themselves. If this is done well, then overtime this will allow the individual to build an ability to come up with solutions on their own and thereby becoming self sufficient, more creative and more productive team member. At the heart of this process though is allowing this person to come to their own solutions through the right questioning. Therefore that little voice in your head telling you that you are always right is quietened down and you are now allowing others to be ‘right’. This allows a team to have numerous contributors to problems other than one, giving the team a huge pool of skills, knowledge and talent to draw from.





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